Have you ever flipped out when people think they have the right to comment about something without expecting you to respond? They give them to you for free.
Sometimes, the most proper answer would be a good slap in the face. They usually catch me off guard and the shock and my good manners make me keep silent as the answer to such references.
A long time ago, I was looking for a manager and in one of the agencies a charming woman, who ended up being a big bitch, received me. I remember she asked me to do a bit in front of her. Out of the blue… with so little experience, I began to shake like jelly. Then, I began to perform a story from my repertory about a little chicken who was eaten up by an evil fox. The truth is, that she loved my acting. She laughed a lot and she shook when the nice main character was devoured by the bad guy in the story.
When I finished she said to me, “Well, I can see you have performed this text many times before and you are too beautiful to be so fat.”… EXCUSE ME?!?!?! Can you believe it? How in the world could anyone say such a horrible atrocity to a young actress who has arrived in your office full of enthusiasm and in the hope that you would manage her?
If you don’t like my physique, and you know you are not going to represent me, don’t tell me that my text is very rehearsed. What did you want me to do? Did you want me to perform a text I didn’t know or did you want me to make mistakes so you would think that this was the first time I performed it?!! And, on the other hand, if you are not going to represent me, don´t make me act for you!!
If you want to criticize a performances, go to the theater and write a fucking blog, (excuse my bad language). But I think it is incredible that people abuse their position when they can…with impunity!!
And the “fat” comment… I am not so beautiful and I am not so fat, and you are a bitch who I should have responded to. Ha ha ha, now I can Iaugh about it, but that day I left that office crying like a baby, shit.
She would have eaten her words if she had heard the conversation between Carlos Iglesias and me preparing for the character of MariCarmen for Un Franco 14 Pesetas.
He asked me to gain weight and the same for the second film. “All you actress look like models, and it is not credible”, he said. What do you think? And me… I remembered that manager while I thought…if she only knew…
By the way, what did she mean by “fat”? Because for this “nice” lady it meant not to be anorexic. I have been on a thousand diets, I have gained, lost and maintained my weight. I have changed sports, training regimens and personal trainers and the thing is, that today I feel comfortable with my body. It has nothing to with my weight. I t is just because I am at my best mental moment.
I think, the important thing is to feel in harmony with the universe and to walk in peace. This statement may sound a little tacky, but it is a way of life. Meditation is what got me there.
As an actor, or actress, to be able to manage your body is vital. On stage I have never had problems with that… well, sometimes, yes, especially if I had to wear something that had nothing to do with the character and there was no way to feel comfortable… but I will talk to you about that on another occasion; today is about to be or not to be fat and how anybody can be controlled by it.
Well, each one of our single features conditions our lives. We can not allow that to limit us and moreover, for other’s to do so.
I do not know what the hell that old witch was thinking about when she told me, “You are too beautiful to be so fat”, nor what was going on in her mind when she made that unfortunate comment, but today I still remember it, especially the pain she caused me. But I can now say, “Thank you lady”, because I can laugh about the past and the things that have happened in this crazy world we live in.
And what about you? Has anybody ever said such nonsense to you like that? I am all ears!!!
Hola Ángela, me ha gustado mucho tu nota. Coincido contigo en que ciertos comentarios te los sueltan así, sin un mínimo de buena intención. En una oportunidad, la encargada del vestuario en un rodaje me decía que tenía unos kilos de más (estando yo en mi peso). E hizo que me probara ropa de una o dos tallas inferiores a la mía. Por supuesto que nada me entraba, y esa era su especie de “demostración” de su punto jeje. Me ha gustado lo que te dijo Carlos Iglesias. Está bien que los personajes se vean todos diferentes porque así reflejan la realidad. En muchos castings, la mayoría parecen personas clonadas…
Gracias por tu comentario preciosa,
Alucino, hay mucho bobo suelto por el mundo…, ni caso
A mi en una entrevista para ser recepcionista de una clinica dental me dijeron que yo no había dado la talla y que por mi bien debería dedicarme a algo en mi vida solamente manual, aludiendo a la gran capacidad demostrada en las pruebas psicopedagogicas de desempeño. Yo tenía 18 años y TDAH. Además tenía una intoxicacion crónica por metales pesados producida por la exposicion a las amalgamas que me habían puesto ellos, precisamente porque era mi dentista de toda la vida. Aquel comentario me hizo armarme de rebeldía contra aquel prejuicio. Simplemente estaba despistada y me colapsé. Pero despues de dejar mis estudios colgados enseguida me centré y estudié la carrera de Diplomada en ENFERMERIA . Actualmente trabajo no me falta, y me gano bien la vida. Creo que gano el doble que aquella persona que aprobó aquella plaza y aún sigue allí. HOY DIA TENGO 2 HIJAS PRECIOSAS Y DOTADAS PARA EL ARTE. Una es muy buena en artes plasticas y la otra en musica, ambas quieren ser actrices. Yo misma he sido contratada en castings de acting y he hecho pequeños papeles en las series que se ruedan en mi ciudad. Gracias por tus consejos. Ahora estoy más orientada para saber por donde empezar a buscar el lugar para la formacion de mis hijas. Me encantaría ser actriz a mí también, pero creo que para lo que estoy superdotada es para la escritura. Es curioso que alquien por quien no apuestan nada sea capaz de tanto y de criar a 2 hijas sola sin que nos falte de nada. Hasta piano tenemos en casa, 2 gatas y un hogar. No ahorro nada porque mi inversión es todo lo que yo pueda darles en vida a mis dos artistas. De mí solo quedará esta casa…y las historias que se fraguaron dentro. Espero escribirlas algun día. Un abrazo. Gracias por materializar al artista. El mundo necesita saber como os sentís dentro de vosotros, sois reales. Dentro de cada actor/actriz hay una persona con sentimientos paralelos o contradictorios que está poniendo su ser para transmitir el mensaje de otra persona. Las personas necesitan del arte. El arte necesita de personas. Un abrazo. Nuria